Why I Haven’t Really Been Posting. . .

I apologize to any of my readers who follow me diligently. Though there are few of you, I feel I owe you an explanation.

I am incredibly tired. These past few weeks have been trying, and I really don’t even know why. Yes, work has had something to do with it. Today was day one of a three day event at my work. This event is the largest I have ever worked, and it took a lot of preparation to pull off. Put that together with a shoulder injury and emotional bull-shit occurring left and right in my life, and you have a pretty nice recipe for a lack of motivation to accomplish anything.

And so I am swamped. I have no drive at the moment to post, no drive to make my stands on social issues, no drive to write. I barely made my deadline for my Taoist post, and I had to drag myself to the computer to do it.

I. Am. Tired. 

Please don’t hold it against me. I hope to be back up and running in a week or so, after I have had some time to unwind after this event. I don’t really know if that will help me or not. I really am not sure what will help get me out of this funk. Life hasn’t really wanted to make sense recently. I keep on getting curve-balls, and I have never hit those very well.

If you would like to maintain contact with me, I am happy to continue speaking on a one on one basis. You can reach me through my email, which is “Samuel.D.Roe@gmail.com” or alternatively you can find me on facebook. My real name is Samuel Roe. Here is a link to my profile: https://www.facebook.com/Samuel.Roe3000?ref=tn_tnmn

Send me a message if you try to send me a friend request. I don’t accept friend requests from random strangers, so if I don’t know it’s you, I won’t accept it.

Thanks everyone for following me this far. Hopefully you will continue to follow me after I figure things out, but, then again, maybe you won’t, and that’s okay too.


How I Feel: Perspectives and Open-mindedness

Open-mindedness is one of the things I treasure most in others, and a trait I am happy with myself on having.
Every day I watch as people ignore this concept. It surprises me that people can even be close-minded. Just to clear things up, the open-mindedness I speak of is not naive, “I will believe anything you tell me”, open-mindedness, but rather the ability to accept that others believe as they do, and that it’s okay for them to do so.
Earlier in my blog, I felt like I had been beating a dead horse on this one, but I realized I haven’t taken a trip to the horse cemetery in awhile, so I think it’s time to touch on it again, so let’s touch on the religion and non-religion debate again. Religious people are often the first to be brought up on charges of being close-minded. Now, unfortunately this is often a well fitting label. That being said, there are a lot of religious people who are not close-minded, but are instead very open.
Now I am not talking about openness to changing their beliefs. Though this may be true of some of them, it is not generally the case. People stand by their beliefs, and that’s perfectly fine. I certainly stand by mine. What the problem stems from is when people see something they disagree with, for example: homosexuality, using foul language, or some other “sinful” practice.

What happens next is usually one of a few things. The person who disagrees with the action either A) Ignores it, and goes about their business, B)Ignores it at the time but then goes home and rants about it to everyone they can find who will listen, C) Confronts those that are committing the act, and asks them to stop, often rudely. D) Respectfully opens dialogue with those that are committing the act, and has a logical and well thought out discussion, where the offended party states their case, but leaves their offenders to make their own choices, and respects the fact that they mat continue to perform the action, regardless of the offended party’s wishes. E) Begins Dialogue respectfully, but begins to argue with the other side, and is in a constant effort to prove the other side wrong. F) Responds with violence.
Now, religion is certainly not the only thing capable of producing this scenario. Often people in the scientific community have issues with things that are not proven science, and react in similar ways. Or certainly with politics! Politics are perhaps the best example, for it is very prominent in this country especially, to find situations like this occuring based off of political reasons.

Now which of these are proper responses? There are two responses that are almost always appropriate responses, though there are exceptions. Both options A and D work great usually, and there are perhaps times when some of the others are still worthwhile options. There is often not much harm in option B, and it can occasionally even be beneficial, though it depends on the rhetoric one uses while they rant. Option C. . . well, it can be okay, if for instance, you see someone about to do something illegal, and you are trying to stop them, though I find option D to still be a better option in those cases. Option E? Option E should never occur, because every time you could use option E, you can use option D, and option D is much better. Option F would only be a valid option if you were trying to stop something like a murder, or a rape. It is only an option when a victim is involved. It is unfortunate how often it is used against those that are not criminals, that are not tyrants or oppressors.
Option D represents open-mindedness, and so does option A. Open-mindedness, in my definition, is the ability to hear or see another way of looking at things, and not feel the need to change it to match your own. It is the willingness to accept that their are other perspectives than your own, and that the way those perspectives see the world, are no more wrong for that person than your perspective is for you.

You have been through a lot. So has everyone else. You came out differently. So did everyone else. Now, understand that and move on, and if you are willing to listen to those other perspectives, you might even learn something. You might be able to expand your understanding, because you had never thought of it in that way. Don’t hold yourself back from learning, just because you are afraid you might learn something.


Happy Nominee of the Liebster Award!

Happy Nominee of the Liebster Award!

Thanks to Ambrozya at Ambrozya.wordpress.com for nominating me for this award. Through a wonderful twist of fate I was apparently noticed by this wonderful blogger who felt it right to nominate me.

“The Liebster award is intended to give new/little know bloggers some attention. And according to popular knowledge, it is only awarded to those with less than 200 WordPress followers.” -Direct quote from Ambrozya.

There are also apparently some rules which go with the award, which are as follows:

The RULES of the award:

Prior to any rule: accept the award, post the picture of the Liebster Award on the top of post, say who nominated you for the award and link their blog site.
1. List 11 random facts about you.
2. Nominate 11 other bloggers for the Liebster Award and link their blog sites.
3. Notify the bloggers of their award.
4. Ask the award winners 11 questions to answer when they accept their Liebster Award

11 Facts about me:
1) I have studied seven languages in my life, though I really only speak one, I was competent at a couple of the others for a brief time.
2) I am both a Nihilist and a Taoist. Some people believe this might be contradictory. Ask me and I will explain how it is not.
3) I believe in Reincarnation.
4) I am not a daily coffee drinker, but I do like it. I get a mocha once or twice a week, frozen in the summer, hot in the winter.
5) I want to be an English teacher, and I want to teach middle school. Yep, I’m crazy.
6) I enjoy a good movie, but books are better, and stories written by my friends are best. Send me a private work and I will gladly give you my thoughts. I have heard I am good at constructive criticism.
7) I adopt things, especially people. I have multiple people(Some older than me) who I call my children. The funny thing is that most of them call me their father.
8) I can become obsessive. . . usually about very unimportant things, like an occasional video game.
9) I have only truly been in love three times, and each one of those has hurt enough that it makes me not want to ever again. Funny how that doesn’t mean you stop.
10) I love the rain. Most people run inside when it rains. I take the first opportunity I can to get outside. Meditating in the rain is also a wonderful exercise.
11) People don’t understand me most of the time, probably because I don’t like showing my true self to anyone. That’s why writing this list has been an interesting experience for me. I am always working on improving myself though, so maybe this should be my next project?

11 Nominees:
Sam and Kaija at http://eternallyhours.com/
Owen at http://lowenly.wordpress.com/
2hp2few at http://twohp2few.wordpress.com/
Today it Hurts at http://todayithurts.wordpress.com/
lovelee90 at http://leewoodham.wordpress.com/
J.A. Kingsley at http://jakingsley.wordpress.com/
Andre at http://fantasticablog.wordpress.com/
Tristan at http://elementalistepoch.wordpress.com/
Cyril at http://frequentlyaskquestions.wordpress.com/
Gypsy Lizardkilt at http://gypsylizardkilt.wordpress.com/
Clare at http://clareflourish.wordpress.com/

This was a fun post to write, and it was fun to be nominated. Thanks again Ambrozya!

The Novelty Has Worn Off

Due to apparent lack of interest in the blog I have decided to depart from posting every day. I had originally started the blog as a place for me to vent, but I do not find such a need any longer. I will still be posting on Taoist Wednesday and continuing to post Shadhaven on Friday or Saturday, unless interest continues to decline, in which case I will simply close the blog down.

Please enjoy the blog while it’s around.

I Remember This #3

I Remember This #3

I need to apply this. I can really see how true this is. I remember when I used to write when I was younger, and how I always had good ideas for my stories, but could never seem to get them out. Now that I have put some more work on it, including participating in NaNoWriMo last year, I know I have gotten better, even though I don’t believe that I have closed that gap quite yet.

I think deadlines will help, and to start applying it I think I am going to set a deadline of getting a new chapter of Shadhaven done every week. I hope you that are following me so far will come back to see it. I am thinking that Shadhaven day is going to be Friday or Saturday, depending on what happens with my work schedule, so if you are excited to read more, please check back then.

Thanks for all your support so far.